International Women’s Day

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Hello everybody!

I hope you guys are well.

I make my pledge for parity and I hope you will too!

Today is International Women’s Day and one day I will.

I’m striving for that day to come sooner than later.

Check out these wonderful websites so you can learn and do as much as you can!

http://www.internationalwomensday.com/

https://www.madewithcode.com/

http://girlswhocode.com/

https://www.malala.org/

https://www.womenwill.com/?hl=en

https://www.womentechmakers.com/

Take good care all.

Until next time…

I believe in…

…existentialism.

Hello everybody!

I hope you guys are well.

I live an existential life. I’m very comfortable and happy living that way. It’s one of the things that I’m a hundred and ten percent sure about. I learned in college, through literature, that you can simple believe in just living. It’s not very complicated. There’s no stress in that, hence why I quickly adopted it into my life. You choose the path you want to take. No one or nothing else chooses it for you. You live your life by making your own decisions and when an obstacle appears, you figure it out to the best of your knowledge or ability because it’s your life. When someone asks me, “What do you believe in?” I didn’t know what to say before in the past, but with years come wisdom. I’m now able to express what I believe in.

I believe in love. I believe in helping those in need, even when you don’t have a lot of money to your name. I believe in harming none. I believe in education. I believe in equality. I believe in happiness. And I believe in respect. Ultimately, I respect the beliefs of others, even when I’m ridiculed and made to feel as if I’m doing something wrong. I do get bullied and I do stay quiet, out of respect, which can be incredibly hard to do. But, once in a while, when I truly know that my words might get a benefit of the doubt, only then do I speak out and defend myself.

I live an existential life.

I believe that I’m living the life that I’m supposed to live because I’ve chosen that path.

I believe that no one has the right to say that their beliefs are superior to yours.

I believe in staying true to oneself because in there lies your own happiness.

“The truth will set you free.”

Maybe one day, I will be completely accepted, without any explanation, but for now all I can do is live my life, the way I choose to live it, existentially happy.

Take good care all.

Until next time…

 

I heart…

Hello everybody!

I hope you guys are well.

Happy belated Valentine’s Day!

There’s a lot of pressure when “I heart day” rolls around, but I simply tell my husband that as long as he gives me a box of chocolates, we’re good.  That’s all I want, chocolate.  Oh, and a sweet kiss from him, of course.  Anyway, I always like to gift my girls something as well as my husband and this year I stumbled upon some great “I heart you” gifts.

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I got these cute balloon doggies for my daughters who love balloon animals, but hate when they deflate or pop!

They’re POP! Mini Series Balloon Animal ‘Pups’ 3 inch toys and they’re vinyl according to the description.  They come in different colors, but you can’t pick the colors.  It’s a surprise once you get it.

http://www.kidrobot.com/ShopAll/DesignerToys/MiniFigures/POPMiniSeriesBalloonAnimalPupsToys3Inch.html

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I got this cool T-shirt for my husband who absolutely love it!

Purchase your own here: https://www.etsy.com/listing/112240997/beer-shirt-growler-t-shirt-drink-locally?ref=shop_home_active_6

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Add some boxes of chocolate and my little family was very happy on Valentine’s Day

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I heart how you, Olivia, passionately tell me what you’ve learn in school while we’re walking back home,

I heart how you, Sophia, pretend play with your toys especially Mario, Luigi and Princess Peach,

and I heart you, Angel, and your everlasting love and commitment to me and our family.

Take good care guys.

Until next time…

Comfort Cross

Hello everybody!

I hope you guys are well.

Have you ever given a gift that turned out to be the perfect gift at that particular moment?  I experienced that with my mom when she was in recovery at the hospital after falling ill two years ago.  I will never forget the sheer happiness and comfort that washed over her face when I presented her with a comfort cross.  My mom is a religious person and at that time in the hospital, she was struggling with her injuries, both physically and mentally.  I’m always searching online for unique gifts that still have a connection to the person that I’m pairing it up with.  I also receive a couple of catalogs, which is where I found the comfort cross.  I knew instantly that my mom was going to love this item.  I was banking more on the comfort part of its name because that’s what I wanted more than anything for my mom.

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Image from catalogfavorites.com

http://www.catalogfavorites.com/itemdy00.aspx?T1=V10350&ref=us

When I walked into my mother’s room in the hospital, she was taking a nap.  Her face was scrunched up as if she wasn’t having a good rest.  I was chatting with my dad and my aunt who were in the room as well when she finally woke up.  I hugged, kissed and teased her that I had a special gift just for her.  When I showed her the cross she immediately grabbed it just like the image above and brought it close to her heart.  The smile that came across her face stayed there as she closed her eyes and fell back to sleep.  Her face wasn’t scrunched up anymore.  She looked, well, comforted!  If you go online there are many versions of this cross.  I’m very happy to have found this item and even happier that I was able to give it to my mom because she means the world to me and I’m so thankful that she’s st.

Take good care all.

Until next time…

Celebrating the one you love

Hello everybody!

I hope you guys are well.

My husband celebrated his 37th birthday last week.  We decided to spend the day at the New York Aquarium as well as the kiddie rides in Coney Island.  The aquarium is currently under construction, due to Hurricane Sandy, so many of their exhibits were closed, but we were able to see the seals perform.  They were magnificent!

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We finished our Coney Island adventure/birthday celebration by taking a quick walk on the beach.  My husband and I gazed at the cruise ships as they sailed away, while the girls played with the sand and filled up their shoes with it!  🙂

We got home late and I was so happy that we had given the birthday boy his card and gifts early on in the morning.  I want to share with you the words that I wrote to this extraordinary man in his birthday card.  Why?  Because I want to celebrate the one that I love.  I do believe that I hit the jackpot and I’m not going to apologize if you think that I’m bragging because finding a companion that truly accepts you and takes everything into consideration is hard.  He is by no means perfect, but he has so many qualities that many men lack or simply don’t want to share with their significant others.  We say, “please” and “thank you” to each other.  These simple words can mean the world.  He says to me, “Thank you for taking care of our children,” and that fills my heart, soul, and mind with calmness.  I feel appreciated.  I say to him, “Thank you for working hard to support our family,” and that shows him that I value him going out into the tumultuous world and sacrificing time with his family in order to give us what we need to survive.  We NEVER curse at each other because we RESPECT one another.  I’m not saying that I don’t curse because I do and so does he.  If I stub my toe, oh yes, the shit word will be flying out of my mouth, but if we happen to have a disagreement, curse words don’t help.  They make things worse and the respect card gets thrown out the window.  It’s as simple as that.  Plus, it helps that we genuinely love each other so there you go.  I wholeheartedly believe that friendship before a relationship is a great foundation for an everlasting union.  Just think about it, there are many people who are friends for life.  So, why not incorporate that with the one that you love?

To, Angel

Love, Angie

“Thank you for loving me and taking good care of our family.  You are the greatest example by far of what a real man should strive to become:  A loving husband who understands and respects his wife and a proud, doting father, who’s also hands on, and loves his children to pieces.  Thank you for your commitment and your strength.  I hope all your wishes come true because YOU deserve it.”

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Celebrate the one you love!

Take good care all.

Until next time…

I question myself…

Hello everybody!

I hope you guys are well.

I used to question myself as a human being.  What am I suppose to be doing here on this earth with my life?  Then I became a mom/human being and started questioning myself as a parent, almost every day.  Am I feeding, cleaning, teaching, treating, and loving them well enough to avoid any damage in the future?  Yes, I’m dramatic, but I have a reason for it.  It’s my wicked and over the top mind.  It has been doing a number on me for many years and I have to work hard to Zen it down, especially for my daughters.  I have to constantly remind myself that things are not going to go as plan.  They might and that’s ok, but if they don’t, that’s ok as well.

Parenthood is a very scary world (I took my sweet time knocking at that door because I knew exactly what was in store) and if you add a worked up mind to the mix, things can go haywire.  But then comes the day where you’re shown exactly what your best efforts have put forward.  I was invited and honored this morning at my daughter’s school for their Exceptional Women Day Brunch.  My daughter’s essay was chosen, along with others in different grades and classes.  We began the celebration by sharing some of the essays that were written by the students.  My daughter stood up and read hers without a second thought, which I so admire and love about her.  She also showed everyone the drawing that she made.  Now it’s my turn to share it with you and to let you know that at least for today my mind is very peaceful and my heart is very proud.  I will remember this day when I’m questioning myself as a parent and know that I’m doing a good job.  My daughter’s teachers, advisors and coaches have provided me with this day, which I’m going to cherish.  I greatly thank them for the acknowledgement and for providing me with something to hush my mind with.

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I also want to thank my darling daughter, Olivia, for her kind and thoughtful words as well as her lovely drawing of us at the dining room table doing her homework.  🙂  I love her artwork.

Take good care all.

Until next time…

A Silhouette of Regret

Hello everybody!  I hope you guys are well.

Today I’m sharing an old poem that I wrote back in 2006.  It was inspired by a decision that was made by one of my cousins.  I wanted to see if I could get into her heart and write down her feelings into words, but I wasn’t sure if I could show it to her if I succeeded because I didn’t want her to get mad at me.  When I finished it, I explained to her what it was and that I wasn’t judging her at all, just trying to see if that’s how she felt about what she had to do.  While she was reading it, tears came to her eyes and I was freaking out.  I wanted to snatch the paper away and say, “Forget it,” but I didn’t.  In my head I was thinking, “She’s going to stop talking to me.  I have absolutely no business writing about this.”   When she was done, I asked her if she was ok and what she thought.  She said that the poem was exactly how she felt some days and that she was indeed sad that she had to make that decision.  We were ok.  Phew!  With time my wonderful cousin has made a beautiful family, which I love so much!  They’re the greatest!

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Of course abortion is a controversial, very touchy subject and people stay firm to what side they support.  Personally, I believe that women should have the right to make their own decisions regarding their own bodies and I’m just going to leave it at that.

Take good care all.

Until next time…

sophia and the plum

Hi everybody!  I hope you guys are well.  This post is dedicated to my mom and I would like to share a couple of pictures that I took about three years ago that remind me how much I love and miss her coming over to my house and spending time with us.

My mom used to take the train from her apartment in the Bronx to my apartment in Brooklyn.  It was an hour commute plus 10 – 15 minutes of walking, but she didn’t care.  She was going to see her granddaughters and that meant the world to her.  Then, two and a half years ago, she contracted pneumonia, which developed into a blood infection (sepsis).  She was given 24 hours to live, but my mother battled through and won.  During the fight, her right leg (specifically between her knee and her ankle) became infected.  They were able to save her leg, but she needed two skin grafts and to this day has little mobility in that area.  She is able to get around with the help of crutches, a walker, and a wheelchair, but she’s not able to come to my house alone like she used to.  We do see each other on the weekends.  It’s pretty hard on her to have her mobility taken away, but she counters that emotion with the fact that she’s still able to enjoy life with her family.  We all encourage her to keep moving as much as she can so she can get stronger.  She’s able to do everything she did before except walk freely.  I call her everyday and one of my ultimate goals for the future is to be able to live closer to my parents and my husband’s family as well, so we can all enjoy our lives together.  If you have a good relationship with your mom, appreciate and never take advantage of it.  If you don’t, try to mend it, if you can of course.

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My mother often brought fruits to us when she visited.  On this day particular day she brought plums. Well, little Miss Sophia (7 months at the time) was fascinated with the plum, as you can see.  I love how she’s looking and holding the fruit up in the first picture, but my favorite is the second one.  I even had it made into canvas.  My mother couldn’t stop laughing and Sophia was determined to eat that plum, even if it meant taking it away from Grandma. 🙂

Take good care all.

Until next time…

The day after

Hello everybody!  I hope you guys are well.  I had a wonderful birthday.  At first, it felt like any other day until I started receiving numerous text and phone calls wishing me a happy birthday.  I was walking back home after dropping off my daughter at school when my mother called me to say that she loved me and that she wished me a very happy birthday.  She then started crying.  I said, “Ma, don’t make me cry.  I’m outside.  I will call you when I get home.  Love you.”  🙂  I definitely didn’t want to be walking home with tears coming down my face.  Once I got home, I called her back and we laughed about it.  She’s the best!

Then, in the evening my darling husband brought home dinner from one of our favorite restaurants, Bamboo Garden, along with a lovely and delicious cake.  My daughter desperately wanted to keep the cake a secret.  She told me not to look in the refrigerator.  Then she said, “Mami, sit down and close your eyes because Daddy is coming with the…”  She stopped herself before she uttered the word “cake” and placed her hand over her mouth.   Her eyes were wide and I couldn’t help but laugh, and my daughter said, “I almost told you the secret.”  So sweet and innocent.  She ran back to the kitchen to help her daddy bring in the surprise.

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Surprise…my yummy butter cream marble cake.  It was delicious!

I gave my youngest a small slice and she finished it off fast.  So fast, that she asked for more, saying, “I want more cake.  Cake, cake, cake.”  That was definitely the sugar speaking there.  We finished my special day with gifts and then like every other day, it was back to our normal routine, bath time and bedtime.  Thank you my sweet family and friends for a great birthday.

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One of my gifts from my husband.  I’ve been eyeing this piece from Lisa Leonard Designs.  If you want something bad, you have to drop some hints! I love it!  Thanks hubby!

Stay alert, stay alive.

Until next time…